tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-80114308713854669532023-11-16T06:11:14.022+00:00Battlements Of RubiesBattlements of RubiesClare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.comBlogger178125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-54188911297193593312013-05-30T01:31:00.000+01:002013-05-30T01:31:07.718+01:00Changing The World: One Diaper At A Time. <blockquote>
<i>The most important person on earth is a mother. She cannot claim the honor of having built Notre Dame Cathedral. She need not. She has built something more magnificent than any cathedral -- a dwelling for an immortal soul, the tiny perfection of her baby's body.... The angels have not been blessed with such a grace. They cannot share in God's creative miracle to bring new saints to Heaven. Only a human mother can. Mothers are closer to God the Creator than any other human creature. God joins forces with mothers in performing this act of creation.... What on God's earth is more glorious than this: to be a mother.</i></blockquote>
<span style="font-size: x-small;">(Cardinal Joseph Mindszenty) </span><br />
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The <a href="http://www.candiesfoundation.org/">Candies Foundation</a> is a "non-profit organization that works to shape the way youth in America think about teen pregnancy and parenthood."
Their current campaign sees them designating May as "National Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month" and asking tweeters to join them in using the hashtag #noteenpreg.
Take a look at the campaign ads:<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Think school sucks? Wait till you have a baby!</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Because what kind of loser has a crib like that? Boooring!</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Nah. A baby buggy isn't going to pull the chicks like your dad's Mondeo.</td></tr>
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What a horribly misconceived campaign.<br />
If the objective is to discourage feckless irresponsible parenting it fails miserably in my opinion.
The message is pretty clear: Motherhood sucks.<br />
This is the way they aim to 'shape the way youth in America think about parenthood': A buggy is a naff alternative to a cool set of 'wheels', and changing diapers is a dead end job for losers.<br />
Nice.<br />
How does one 'change the world' anyway? Getting pissed in nightclubs? Becoming a rockstar? Having a string of 'partners'? Driving a nice car? Going to university?<br />
Are these foxy poster girls and boys 'world changers'? Really?<br />
Personally I can't think of anything more 'world changing' than raising the next generation.<br />
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Am I <i>advocating</i> for teenage motherhood? No, although frankly I can think of many things <i>way</i> worse than teen motherhood. Some of the most wonderful and devoted mothers I've known have started out young.<br />
In my opinion the problem worthy of tackling is not "teenage motherhood" but a collapse of the ideal of marriage and family life.
Instead of appealing to base, consumerist instincts couldn't we give young people a beautiful vision of family life to aspire to?<br />
Instead of stigmatising young mums by ad campaign (yuk) couldn't we honour the dignity and value of motherhood?<br />
Couldn't we help young men to envision themselves as noble and sacrificial husbands and fathers rather than players with a 'cool set of wheels'?
Couldn't we?<br />
It seems to me that what started out as a noble intention to remove the stigma suffered by 'irregular' families has seen the slow toppling of the ideal, that of a mother and father, committed to each other and to the children of their union, in a permanent bond of marriage.<br />
Is it not possible to hold out marriage as a 'gold standard' for children without stigmatising those who through death, divorce or abandonment are raising children single handedly? I hope so.<br />
But this campaign badly misfires on all fronts.
Stigmatising teen mums by advertising campaign is nasty.
Demeaning motherhood is a crappy way to encourage young people to wait until they are able to parent responsibly.<br />
Teenage mothers are not "The Problem". Really. Age is not the problem. Fecklessness, cruelty and selfishness is the problem. Josef Fritzel was no spring chicken.<br />
Let's be honest, the #noteenpreg campaign isn't about teenage pregnancy at all. It's about the cost to us of supporting mothers on state benefits.<br />
<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2328892/The-bride-25-000-guests-Holding-sash-newlywed-19-waits-relative-perform-Mitzvah-dance-marries-Ultra-Orthodox-Jewish-family.html">Here's a delightful article</a> about an orthodox Jewish wedding between two teenagers.
If she has a honeymoon baby I don't think anyone is going to be tut tutting about #noteenpreg.
Why? Because they're married, they have lots of family support and they have plenty of money. So we don't have to fret about them being benefit scroungers.
Because that's the bottom line here: Money.
Because It's the economy stupid. Always.<br />
The truth is, there is nothing weird or bizarre or antisocial about teenage mothers.
What is weird, antisocial and bizarre is our selfish, materialistic, hedonistic, me first, individualistic, lonely, anti natal, child fearing, commitment phobic, infantile culture, for whom the giant, atrophied, wet nursing teat of the State has become Big Mummy.<br />
What is weird, antisocial and bizarre is our dismantling of the gold standard of marriage, the flattening of the family and the concept of the child as being either a quick jump in the queue for a council flat or the perfect cherry on the cake of the finished life.<br />
Instead of <a href="http://www.candiesfoundation.org/">this shallow, materialistic flummery</a> we should be offering teens a vision for the beauty of family life and the good of marriage.
How? By <i>modelling<b></b></i> it.
Babies don't need fancy cribs and cool wheels, they need parents committed to them and to each other.
We all need to grow up and start showing our young people how to live by example. Vacuous ad campaigns won't do that for us.Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-51894258974866870032013-05-27T01:03:00.001+01:002013-05-27T01:03:56.544+01:00Dear Barbara<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: none;"><a href="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-oXu2rlH-IC0/UaKe-EBoAtI/AAAAAAAACE4/k_a04Wrlxnw/s480/Photo%25252023%252520Dec%2525202007%25252004%25253A02.jpg" target="_blank" style=""><img src="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-oXu2rlH-IC0/UaKe-EBoAtI/AAAAAAAACE4/k_a04Wrlxnw/s480/Photo%25252023%252520Dec%2525202007%25252004%25253A02.jpg" id="blogsy-1369612691061.573" class="alignnone" alt="" width="480" height="344"></a></div>
Barbara and Jonny<br/><br/><span style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875); -webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(130, 98, 83, 0.0976563); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(191, 107, 82, 0.496094); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; "><br>
</span><br/><br/><span style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875); -webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(130, 98, 83, 0.0976563); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(191, 107, 82, 0.496094); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; "><br>
</span><br/><br/><span style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875); -webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(130, 98, 83, 0.0976563); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(191, 107, 82, 0.496094); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; ">Happy Birthday <a href="http://mommylife.net/" target="_blank" title="">Barbara</a>.</span><br/><br/><span style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.296875); -webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(130, 98, 83, 0.0976563); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(191, 107, 82, 0.496094); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; ">Can I still say that?</span><br/><br/>You would be 65 years old today if you'd lived. The night you died, quite by coincidence, I had taken your old address out of my Amazon account. It was there because I bought you a kitchen bin once ( ha! Long story) but you'd moved since so it seemed pointless keeping it. I thought I'd maybe email you to ask you for your new address, imagining that it would be cool to surprise you with a bunch of flowers for your next birthday.<br/><br/>And then, just before shutting down for the night, I checked my Google Reader. And I learned that you had gone.<br/><br/>At first I was confused. Your new post said " <a href="http://mommylife.net/archives/2012/10/in_memory_of_ba.html" target="_blank" title="">In Memory of Barbara Curtis</a>". I hadn't seen the posts informing readers that you'd been taken ill and wondered, hoped, that this latest post was perhaps some waggish post by you, contemplating your own mortality or something. Or something. <br/><br/>I shouted then, I can't remember what, maybe it was just "No!". But I didn't cry.<br/><br/>I got up, turned off the computer, got into bed and just lay there in the dark saying "Barbara is gone" Over and over again. After a while I tried to pray, but the same three words kept intruding into my prayer. "Barbara is gone". <br/><br/> <br/><br/>In the morning those three words were still playing a loop in my head and I went to check your blog again, hoping that there had been some horrible mistake.<br/><br/>I didn't cry until then. And I'm crying now thinking about you, and all that you did for me and how many chances I missed to show you how much you meant to me. I was sure we'd meet someday. I hoped you might even travel to London and I could take you and Tripp on a tour of my city.<br/><br/> I was pretty sure you'd live into your nineties, still mentoring young mums, railing against political iniquities and grabbing life by the tail when you were a great great grandma of many.<br/><br/>You were simply too big, too busy and too full of life to die at 64.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>You know what you did for me. I can't share it all here. It's too sad and sore to rake over that period. But when I was in a pit of despair and shame you were like a gentle mother to me. A tough talking, no nonsense woman who could cut the feet from under the proud and the mean, you had a heart that was as soft as butter for the broken, to whom you were the tenderest nurse. <br/><br/>You knew what it felt like to sorrow over your sin. You'd been there yourself and with incredible honesty and generosity had shared your mistakes and messes with your readers in hopes that we could learn from you.<br/><br/>You mentored so many mothers. And we shared your pride and delight in your beautiful family. <br/><br/>How exciting it was to watch Maddy in the X Factor, to follow the preparations for one wedding after another, the Thanksgiving meals and Christmases and the fabulous photos of all the Curtis clan together, the grandchildren getting bigger each year! Samantha's adoption journey, reading about the younger boys, the 'Downzers' as you affectionately called them, and how they were doing, their camps and theatrical exploits and trips to Washington. We got to share in the big rollicking ride that was your life as a mother of many, and it was beautiful and inspiring.<br/><br/>Then there was the news of Hatty, your beloved daughter in law, as she very bravely fought cancer and the pride you felt in Josh who was such a faithful and loving husband throughout her illness. We worried for her and hoped and prayed for her. And now, within six months of losing his mother, poor Josh has lost his bride too. <br/><br/>So Tripp, the other half of you, the rock of a man with whom you built your extraordinary family and to whom you were so proudly devoted, is moving through the days without you. Little did anyone think last year that father and son would be widowers together today.<br/><br/>Grief and loss is fearful. I dread to think about how it must feel. And yet it is part of the common human experience and something that, in time, will touch us all, if we live long enough.<br/><br/>Thinking about Tripp and Josh reminded me of this 14th century poem which I came across in an anthology of Irish writing . I was 15 at the time and a stranger to bereavement. But it offered me a powerful glimpse into the savage loneliness of death. <br/><br/> <br/><br/>On the Death of his Wife<br/><br/>Muireadhach Albanach <br/><br/> <br/><br/>I parted from my life last night,<br/><br/>A woman’s body sunk in clay:<br/><br/>The tender bosom that I loved <br/><br/>Wrapped in a sheet they took away.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>The heavy blossom that had lit<br/><br/>The ancient boughs is tossed and blown; <br/><br/>Hers was the burden of delight<br/><br/>That long had weighed the old tree down.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>And I am left alone <a href="x-apple-data-detectors://0" x-apple-data-detectors="true" x-apple-data-detectors-type="calendar-event" x-apple-data-detectors-result="0">tonight</a><br/><br/>And desolate is the world I see,<br/><br/>For lovely was that woman’s weight <br/><br/>That even last night had lain on me.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Weeping I look upon the place <br/><br/>Where she used to rest her head, <br/><br/>For yesterday her body’s length <br/><br/>Reposed upon you too, my bed.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Yesterday that smiling face<br/><br/>Upon one side of you was laid <br/><br/>That could match the hazel bloom <br/><br/>In its dark delicate sweet shade.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Maelva of the shadowy brows <br/><br/>Was the mead-cask at my side; <br/><br/>Fairest of all flowers that grow <br/><br/>Was the beauty that has died.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>My body’s self deserts me now, <br/><br/>The half of me that was her own, <br/><br/>Since all I knew of brightness died <br/><br/>Half of me lingers, half is gone.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>The face that was like hawthorn bloom <br/><br/>Was my right foot and my right side; <br/><br/>And my right hand and right eye<br/><br/>Were no more mine than hers who died.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Poor is the share of me that’s left <br/><br/>Since half of me died with my wife; <br/><br/>I shudder at the words I speak; <br/><br/>Dear God, that girl was half my life.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>And our first look was her first love; <br/><br/>No man had fondled ere I came <br/><br/>The little breasts so small and firm <br/><br/>And the long body like a flame.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>For twenty years we shared a home, <br/><br/>Our converse milder with each year; <br/><br/>Eleven children in its time<br/><br/>Did that tall stately body bear.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>It was the King of hosts and roads<br/><br/>Who snatched her from me in her prime: <br/><br/>Little she wished to leave alone<br/><br/>The man she loved before her time.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Now King of churches and of bells, <br/><br/>Though never raised to pledge a lie <br/><br/>That woman’s hand - can it be true? - <br/><br/>No more beneath my head will lie.<br/><br/> <br/><br/> <br/><br/> <br/><br/>Happy birthday dear friend. I bless the day you were born. Thank you for all the good you did and all you tried to do. You were a fierce champion for mothers and children. You used your talent for communicating to advocate for motherhood, especially for those mothers of disabled children who found in you an inspiring and encouraging friend.<br/><br/> I owe you more than I can say and I'll never forget you. May the Good Lord be merciful to you and make His face to shine upon you. I will continue to pray for you, and for the family you loved so dearly. Please pray for me.<br/><br/> <br/><br/> <br/><br/> <br/><br/><div style="text-align: right; font-size: small; clear: both;" id="blogsy_footer"><a href="http://blogsyapp.com" target="_blank"><img src="http://blogsyapp.com/images/blogsy_footer_icon.png" alt="Posted with Blogsy" style="vertical-align: middle; margin-right: 5px;" width="20" height="20" />Posted with Blogsy</a></div>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-49201536090994862092013-05-03T01:39:00.001+01:002013-05-03T01:45:29.949+01:00Looking after orphans and widows in their distress <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/-cUc18BR-NAo/UYMHGA9RcXI/AAAAAAAACEE/8SLtSNAMfBg/s220/Photo%2525203%252520May%2525202013%25252001%25253A38.jpg" target="_blank" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/-cUc18BR-NAo/UYMHGA9RcXI/AAAAAAAACEE/8SLtSNAMfBg/s220/Photo%2525203%252520May%2525202013%25252001%25253A38.jpg" id="blogsy-1367541793142.0745" class="aligncenter" alt="" width="220" height="148"></a></div>
<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after<sup class="crossreference" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-30294AQ" title="See cross-reference AQ">AQ</a>)" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top; "></sup> orphans and widows<sup class="crossreference" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-30294AR" title="See cross-reference AR">AR</a>)" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top; "></sup> in their distress" James1:27</span><br/><br/> <br/><br/><br>
In addition to their regular vigil at Whitfield Street, The Good Counsel Network are now running an additional daily outreach at <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/Abortuary-Vigils.html" target="_blank" title="">Mattock Lane in Ealing</a>. Consequently the number of women they are helping to choose life for their unborn babies is greatly increased. The support that they are offering to women is vital and life changing. Their work is a real act of faith as they commit to supporting these women, trusting that God will supply all their needs. <br/><br/>Last year I met "Lina" a young Eastern European woman who had attended a debate on <a href="https://www.bpas.org/bpasknowledge.php?year=2012&npage=0&page=81&news=537" target="_blank" title="">"Anti abortion protestors and freedom of speech"</a> organised by BPAS at the Conway Hall in London. She had been in the audience hoping to contribute her own experience, but had felt daunted and hampered by her poor English, so in the end said nothing but listened with growing frustration to the clever arguments for "choice" which seemed insensible to the situation which women like herself find themselves in.<br/><br/>The baby which she had brought along with her was about 7 months old. She told me that when she had become pregnant her boyfriend had quickly abandoned her. Her employer then let her go and she was left with no means of paying her rent. She wasn't entitled to benefits in this country and while she would have been given an abortion on the NHS, if she went ahead with her pregnancy she would have had to pay for any obstetric care she recieved. She was literally faced with destitution unless she "chose" abortion.<br/><br/>She told me that she went for counselling at the Marie Stopes clinic in Whitfield Street and explained her situation. <span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.292969); -webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(175, 192, 227, 0.230469); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(77, 128, 180, 0.230469); ">The counsellor listened and then bluntly asked her " So how are you going to support yourself and a baby?" She explained that she</span> didn't want an abortion and felt that if she could just have some help to get through the next year that she would be able to manage.<br/><br/>The counsellor's response was simply to offer her an abortion. Feeling defeated and believing that she had nowhere else to turn, she made an appointment.<br/><br/>As she left the clinic she bumped into a counsellor from the Good Counsel Network who offered her a leaflet and said that they wanted to help her and her baby. She was amazed that right outside the door had been the help that she had been seeking all along. It would have been so easy for the Marie Stopes counsellor to say " we can't help you with your needs, but see that lady out there? she's standing there waiting to help women like you. Go talk to her and see what she can do for you" But of course that doesn't happen, because " that lady out there" is stealing Marie Stope's business. So much for "choice" from Marie Stopes.<br/><br/>With the help of the Good Counsel Network she continued with her pregnancy and when I met her was back on her feet.<br/><br/>We both became tearful when she told me that she looks at her baby every day and weeps to think how close she came to losing her.<br/><br/>Lina is just one of the many, many mothers supported by the Good Counsel Network. They are invisible to pro choicers who prefer to believe that every woman who crosses the threshold of an abortuary looking for help is fully exercising "choice". <br/><br/>These mothers and their unborn children are the "widows and orphans in their distress" that our culture turns away from. Instead we offer them death. And the crowning insult is that we call it "choice" and expect them to celebrate the privilege.<br/><br/>If you want to help the Good Counsel Network to offer them life, please read this email which I received today and consider what you can do to build a culture of life in our city.<br/><br/> <br/><br/> <br/><br/> <span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>Please come on Good Counsel’s <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/WANDSWORTH-TO-WAPPING-WALK.html" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; ">Annual Wandsworth to Wapping Sponsored Walk</a>.</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>We are in urgent need of raising funds. Yet again this year we have broken all previous records for the number of pregnant women, planning to have an abortion, that we have counselled. This number has been rapidly increasing every year for a few years now. This means that we have been graced with the opportunity to counsel more Mothers than ever before and with the help of God save a greatly increased number of innocent unborn lives. This is very happy news, but means that our finances are stretched further than ever before.</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>When we are counselling women in order to help them to choose life for their child we offer them all the emotional, practical and moral support which is necessary for them to have the confidence to continue with their pregnancy. The emotional and moral support can take up hours of our time but in general does not cost very much. The practical support is much harder, and can include accommodation/help with rent, direct financial help to provide essentials such as food and clothes, legal advice, travel assistance to get to doctors/midwives appointment etc. etc. This is a huge burden upon us but it is vital that we are able to continue to offer this to all of the pregnant Mothers we see.</strong></em></span><br/><br/><em><strong> </strong></em><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>To give you an example of the work we are doing, this very morning we have seen two couples who were both definite in their decision to have an abortion. Both of these couples have left having changed their mind completely... One of these couples was a young married couple from Hertfordshire. They have very little money, and have to live in a very small studio with no kitchen and a bathroom which is shared with the restaurant which is beneath their home. They hadn’t intended to have a baby yet and were really worried about the future. They also knew their current accommodation was was not at all suitable for a child. They met one of our counsellors who was able to show them God’s plan for this child and convince them that Abortion is not a good choice for their child and also for their own future. They then visited our centre where we were able to give them a safety net for when the baby is born in case they are not able to afford better accommodation or provide the basic necessities for their child. This safety net, which we have committed to, is what gave them the confidence to continue with their pregnancy, and they left happy in their choice to choose life for their baby. As she left she said “This morning I was going to kill my baby but now I really hope it is a girl, do you think God will think I am asking too much?”<br>
</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>As you can see it is vital that we can raise the funds necessary to continue to offer this “safety net”. Our next big fundraising effort is our Annual <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/WANDSWORTH-TO-WAPPING-WALK.html" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; "></a><a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/WANDSWORTH-TO-WAPPING-WALK.html" target="_self" title="">WANDSWORTH TO WAPPING SPONSORED WALK</a> which is approx. 13 Miles long and is on Saturday July 20th (starting with Mass at 10am and finishing at approximately 4pm with drinks and refreshments) and we want to get as many people as possible to join us and raise sponsorship for our lifesaving work. For more details please <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/WANDSWORTH-TO-WAPPING-WALK.html" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; "></a><a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/default.html" target="_self" title="">see our website</a></strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><em><strong><a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/444570612304144/?ref=22" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><font color="#000000" href="https://www.facebook.com/events/444570612304144/?ref=22" target="_blank" title="">For our Facebook event page </font></a><font color="#000000" href="https://www.facebook.com/events/444570612304144/?ref=22" target="_blank" title=""><a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/444570612304144/?ref=22" target="_blank" title="">click here</a></font></strong></em><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>To let us know you want to come and to get your fundraising pack please reply to this email with your contact details and we will send a fundraising pack with all the important details to you and keep in touch between now and the big day.</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>Thank you in advance for your support.</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>God bless</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong> </strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>Conor Carroll</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>Good Counsel Network</strong></em></span><br/><br/><a href="http://www.goodcounselnetwork.com/" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><font color="#000000"><em><strong>www.goodcounselnetwork.com</strong></em></font></a><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><em><strong>02077231740</strong></em></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><br/><br/><font color="#000000"><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Good-Counsel-Network/124371570929263?ref=tn_tnmn" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; "><img src="https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/s/?view=att&th=13e6599f82fc27a6&attid=0.1&disp=emb&zw&atsh=1" id="blogsy-1367541793145.3323" class="" width="49" height="49" alt="image"></a> <a href="https://twitter.com/GoodCounselNet" target="_blank" style="text-decoration: none; "><img src="https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/s/?view=att&th=13e6599f82fc27a6&attid=0.2&disp=emb&zw&atsh=1" id="blogsy-1367541793189.136" class="" width="127" height="41" alt="image"></a></span></font><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><br/><br/> <br/><br/><div style="text-align: right; font-size: small; clear: both;" id="blogsy_footer"><a href="http://blogsyapp.com" target="_blank"><img src="http://blogsyapp.com/images/blogsy_footer_icon.png" alt="Posted with Blogsy" style="vertical-align: middle; margin-right: 5px;" width="20" height="20" />Posted with Blogsy</a></div>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-52283652065329559612013-04-29T01:31:00.001+01:002013-04-29T01:34:10.231+01:00A question about believers baptism<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<a name='more'></a>( Gratuitous pics of Marie-Aibhlinn's baptism!) </blockquote>
<span style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(130, 98, 83, 0.0976563); -webkit-composition-frame-color: rgba(191, 107, 82, 0.496094); -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.292969); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: Noteworthy; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">My friend Charlotte, an evangelical Christian, is currently in RCIA and considering becoming Catholic. </span><br />
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She has a question about infant baptism which she has posted on Catholic Answers and she also emailed it to me.<br />
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When I was considering how to answer it occurred to me that it might be helpful to post it here so that some of you reading here, could perhaps shed a bit of light on her question.<br />
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Here's what she said:<br />
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" I am hoping to convert soon but there are a few questions I have and I would greatly appreciate help.<br />
The first is baptism. There are scriptures that can be said to support 'believer's baptism' and others that seem, by assumption, to include infant baptism. However I am stumped by this scripture that seems to clearly preclude infant baptism in favour of believer's baptism:<br />
John 1:27-27 says '12 Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God— 13 children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.'<br />
This not only says that to become children of God, we need to actively receive him (it then clarifies - to 'believe' in Jesus as the Messiah) - it clearly states that simply to be born naturally, whether planned or simply a natural result of sexual union - is not sufficient, whether or not the child is then baptised (as it could not actively believe in Jesus)."<br />
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I'm not seeing how this verse *precludes* infant baptism.<br />
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We are still required to cooperate with the graces we receive at baptism. <br />
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<u><strong>The grace of baptism for an infant is somewhat like receiving a great inheritance. They may squander it or leave it sitting in a bank vault and live like a pauper</strong></u><span style="font-weight: bold;">. </span><br />
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If this verse meant that active belief was necessary for salvation then those who are incapable of active belief ( the very young or the mentally unfit) would be excluded from God's covenant.<br />
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Catholics believe that baptism is necessary<br />
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( "<em>and this water symbolizes baptism that now saves you</em>.." 1 Peter <a href="x-apple-data-detectors://0" x-apple-data-detectors-result="0" x-apple-data-detectors-type="calendar-event" x-apple-data-detectors="true">3:21</a> )<br />
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and that children are included in Gods covenant just as the children of Israel were ( circumcision being a type of baptism under the old covenant)<br />
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Also, <a href="http://www.scripturecatholic.com/baptism.html" target="_blank" title="">this site</a> explains that the Greek translation of Acts 23 " Repent and be baptised" literally means "If you repent, then each one who is a part of you and yours must each be baptized” (“Metanoesate kai bapistheto hekastos hymon.”)<br />
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In Acts <a href="x-apple-data-detectors://2" x-apple-data-detectors-result="2" x-apple-data-detectors-type="calendar-event" x-apple-data-detectors="true">2:39</a> Peter says "<em>The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.”</em><br />
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So he is saying that baptism is given to children, who are also part of Gods covenant family. <br />
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According to the site linked to above "those who are far off" refers to those who are at home, primarily infants and young children.<br />
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But that doesn't mean that to be baptised *guarantees* our salvation. We are still free to reject or accept Christ and to sin or to pursue holiness.<br />
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In baptism we have the hope rather than the assurance of salvation. <br />
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Nor does it mean that those who die without baptism are damned.<br />
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The Catechism puts it like this:<br />
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<em> "The Lord himself affirms that baptism is necessary for salvation [John 3:5]. . . . Baptism is necessary for salvation for those to whom the Gospel has been proclaimed and who have had the possibility of asking for this sacrament </em>[Mark 16:16]" (CCC 1257).<br />
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And here it talks about the possibility of salvation for the unbaptised:<br />
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<em> "Those who die for the faith, those who are catechumens, and all those who, without knowing of the Church but acting under the inspiration of grace, seek God sincerely and strive to fulfill his will, are saved even if they have not been baptized" CCC 1281</em><br />
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The catechism also allows for the possibility of salvation for unbaptised infants ( CCC 1260-61 and CCC 1283 ) <br />
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In today's reading at Mass Paul and Barnabas are quoted as saying<br />
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<em>"It is necessary for us to undergo many hardships to enter the Kingdom of God" </em><br />
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( Acts 14:21-27)<br />
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They are exhorting new Christians to persevere in the faith, but surely they are not precluding the newly baptised infant who dies without undergoing any hardships whatsoever from entering the Kingdom? <br />
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I'd be really glad if any reading this have any comments on this question. How would you reply to Charlotte?<br />
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Please add your thoughts in the combox!<br />
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We had planned to spend Easter weekend at Ampleforth where the community of St Aeldred were running a family retreat. I spent most of Thursday packing and preparing and then, when Pat got home, we realised there was a problem with the car. the rear lights weren't working. We didn't feel safe driving all the way up to Yorkshire sans rear lights so we decided to postpone our departure until the following morning, hoping that we could sort it out before we left.<br />
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There were other complicating factors too. We don't have enough room in the car for all our family and so my oldest son was going to take the train. Son no.2 needed to come back early because he was catching a flight to Denver on Monday for the first leg of his Big Gap Year Adventure. By Friday morning we realised that the cost of the trains for the boys, coupled with the urgent car issues, and the necessity of truncating our weekend in order to get back in time for Dominic to pack for his travels were presenting obstacles insuperable and we decided to cancel Ampleforth and plan for Easter at home. It was more than a little disappointing.<br />
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Our luggage stayed in the car for almost the entire weekend before we got around to unpacking again. I felt so disheartened. The younger children had been really excited about the prospect of a weekend away. <br />
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In all my preoccupation and busyness I hadn't noticed that Colmcille had prepared a little info pack for our friend Edith who was going to be staying in the house during our absence and taking care of our cat Brian. All neatly presented in a folder complete with helpful pictures of cats and Easter bunnies. Colmcille is full of sweetness and optimism and it does my heart good to stumble across these little things he busies himself with when I'm not looking. I especially love the little tip he leaves for Edith as a "token of thanks". <br />
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Sometimes my children make my heart hurt with love and happiness. I wish I could bottle these days and keep them forever. Everything passes. He'll be a man soon like his older brothers and all these things will be a sweet memory. This is why I want to blog. To capture the moments that make my heart sing with gladness and gratitude for my darlings. The sweet pulse of my heart. <br />
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Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-29957655106651923782013-01-10T00:40:00.001+00:002013-01-10T02:15:45.174+00:00A letter to my MP regarding same sex marriage<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-weight: bold; ">Following the request of Archbishop Vincent Nichols that we should make our objections to these proposals known to our MP, I have sent the email below to Angie Bray MP for Acton/Ealing. I was spurred into action last night when a friend forwarded to me her own email on this matter. So I thought that maybe some of you would also be inspired to do likewise. </span></span><br/><br/>Those of you who would like some further reading on why this issue is so enormously critical and how the equality argument is a fallacious red herring may want to read this Catholoc Voices Briefing paper:<br/><br/><a href="http://www.catholicvoices.org.uk/sites/default/files/InDefenceOfConjugalityCVBriefPaperMarch2012.pdf" target="_blank">http://www.catholicvoices.org.uk/sites/default/files/InDefenceOfConjugalityCVBriefPaperMarch2012.pdf</a><br/><br/>I emailed our MP at this address: <br>
<span style="font-weight: bold; "><a href="mailto:angie.bray.mp@parliament.uk" target="_blank">angie.bray.mp@parliament.uk</a><br>
Her website is here: <br>
<a href="http://www.angiebray.org.uk/contact/" target="_blank">http://www.angiebray.org.uk/contact/</a><br>
For those of you elsewhere you can find your MP's contact details here: <br>
<a href="http://www.theyworkforyou.com/" target="_blank">http://www.theyworkforyou.com/</a></span><br/><br/>I encourage any of you who haven't done so yet to make your feelings known to your MP.<br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-weight: bold; ">I don't think it needs to be a long letter, in fact shorter letters are probably much better. No doubt our MP's hardly have time to be reading through multiple explanations of the ins and outs of this issue.</span></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-weight: bold; ">If you don't have the time yourself, a simple letter asking them to defend the current definition of marriage would suffice.</span></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-weight: bold; ">I am posting my letter here, not because I think it's in any way a model letter. There are so many things to say about this issue and I decided to just stick to a couple of points. But I'm hoping that it might galvanise some readers to do likewise.</span></span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span style="font-weight: bold; ">Lets send a message to our parliamentary representatives that we are taking note of where they stand on this issue.</span></span><br/><br/><br>
Dear Ms Bray<br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I am an Acton mother of six children whose ages range from three to twenty two years old. </span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I am a life long Labour voter who voted Conservative at the last election on account of Labour policies which I felt were harming the family and as a natural consequence of that, harming children and young people, upon whom the future of our society depends.</span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I am now realising that the party I thought would work to restore the respect and support which is owed to the most fundamental and critical cell of society is, in actual fact, now deepening the harm that has been done to it.</span><br/><br/><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; ">The fact that this is being imposed upon us with no mandate whatsoever, without any prior manifesto commitment, and without heeding the numerous petitioners against is beginning to feel as though we have a government which believes itself to be ruling by divine right.</span><br/><br/><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; ">Since when has any government had an interest in formally ratifying romantic love between persons?</span><br>
<br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Marriage has been properly understood to be uniquely deserving of societal recognition precisely because it is the union of a man and a woman which is apt to result in the next generation. </span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">And we know that growing up within the stable bond of marriage between its mother and father provides the best possible environment for any child.</span><br/><br/><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; ">Redefining marriage weakens societal respect for the family because redefinition hinges solely on romantic love between persons and disregards the prime needs of children to be raised with both their parents.</span><br>
<br/><br/><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; ">Marriage is hard, and our divorce rate more than attests to this. I believe that over romanticising marriage and overlooking its conjugal nature is a terrible mistake and a symptom of a rather infantile generation that has failed to grow up.</span><br>
<br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Past generations understood that marriage was about more than themselves. This generation is in danger of losing sight of this. </span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">The government appears to be compounding the error.</span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">I hope, for the sake of future generations, you will defend marriage and resist attempts to redefine it.</span><br/><br/><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Yours sincerely</span><br/><br/> <br/><br/><div style="text-align: right; font-size: small; clear: both;" id="blogsy_footer"><a href="http://blogsyapp.com" target="_blank"><img src="http://blogsyapp.com/images/blogsy_footer_icon.png" alt="Posted with Blogsy" style="vertical-align: middle; margin-right: 5px;" width="20" height="20" />Posted with Blogsy</a></div>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-16472583741692374122012-11-20T01:07:00.000+00:002012-11-20T01:07:20.139+00:00An update to my last post on Maternal death.<div style="color: red;">
<u><b>UPDATE:</b></u></div>
Since posting <a href="http://mybattlementsofrubies.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/maternal-death-when-fools-rush-in.html" target="_blank">this</a> on the death of Savita Halapannavar, a few more things came to my attention which add more context to this story. Initially I added them at the bottom of my original post, but Mac at <a href="http://mulier-fortis.blogspot.co.uk/" target="_blank">Mulier Fortis </a>pointed out that it wouldn't be picked up by RSS readers and so it might be worth putting the update in a separate post. Seems like a good idea, so here it is: <br />
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<a href="http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/bangalore/city-doctor-defends-irish-counterparts/article4100988.ece" target="_blank">This article in the Hindu Times</a>
quotes the president elect of the Federation of obstetric and
Gynaecological Societies of India, Dr. Hema Divakar defending the
decision of the Irish doctors as being reasonable:<br />
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<b style="color: #4c1130;">Cause of death</b><br style="color: #4c1130;" /><span style="color: #4c1130;">
Delay or refusal to terminate the pregnancy does not in
itself seem to be the cause of death. Even if the law permitted it, it
is not as if her life would have been saved because of termination,” she
said. “Severe septicaemia with disseminated intravascular coagulation
(DIC), a life-threatening bleeding disorder which is a complication of
sepsis, major organ damage and loss of the mother’s blood due to severe
infection, is the cause of death in Savita’s case. This is what seems to
have happened and </span><b style="color: #4c1130;">this is a sequence which cannot be reversed just by
terminating the pregnancy</b><span style="color: #4c1130;">.”
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<b>Pain and infection</b>
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Analysing the situation, Dr. Divakar said: “Based on available
information, Savita would have reported pain and infection and doctors
would have indicated a miscarriage as the 17-week foetus may not have
grown as expected. Its growth would have been deteriorating because of
the infection. Having understood that the baby was not going to make it,
the couple would have asked for termination. <b>But as Savita’s infection
may have required aggressive treatment at that stage, doctors must have
felt the need to prevent complications. The usual [practice] is to
meddle the least till the mother is stable</b>.”
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Asserting that it is wise to wait in cases with such complications at 17
weeks, Dr. Divakar said: “As per reports, the baby’s heartbeat stopped
after three days. But that was expected.”</span> </div>
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The blogger <a href="http://thethirstygargoyle.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/paper-doesnt-refuse-ink-as-my-dad-says.html" target="_blank">Thirsty Gargoyle</a> points out significant discrepancies in the various timelines of events which are being quoted in the press. </div>
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<span style="color: #351c75;">How has the </span><i style="color: #351c75;">Irish Times</i><span style="color: #351c75;"> ran two conflicting versions -- one
written, one aural -- of the same story, and not noticed that they
contradict each other? Did Kitty Holland not notice, the second time she
interviewed Praveen, that his sequence of events had changed?</span></div>
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How has nobody picked up on the fact that the sequence of events as described by the <i>Irish Times</i>, with Praveen as a source, and RTE, dependent on the hospital's viewpoint, are <i>completely </i>at odds with each other?</div>
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He also posts the timeline of events from Galway University Hospital which RTE reports on <a href="http://www.rte.ie/news/2012/1114/timeline-savita-halappanavars-death.html" target="_blank">here</a>.<br />
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<strong>Sunday 21 October:</strong></div>
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Patient presents to hospital complaining of backpain.</div>
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Patient is admitted with a threatened miscarriage to the Obstetrics and Gynaecology Unit.</div>
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<strong>Monday 22 October:</strong></div>
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After 24 hours of admission, antibiotics are given.</div>
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<strong>Tuesday 23 October:</strong></div>
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Patient transferred to theatre.</div>
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Spontaneous miscarriage occurs.</div>
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<strong>Wednesday 24 October: </strong></div>
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Post-theatre patient is transferred to Intensive Care Unit.</div>
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Patient remains unwell.</div>
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<strong>Thursday-Saturday 25-27 October:</strong></div>
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Patient continues to deteriorate.</div>
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<strong>Sunday 28 October:</strong></div>
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Patient dies in ICU.</div>
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Post mortem examination ordered by coroner.</div>
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One of the commenters on my last post, Katie, asked about normal management of pre term premature rupture of membranes (PPROM).<br />
With the important caveat that I am not an expert and I don't wish to add to the speculation before the facts, here is the answer I gave Katie according to my understanding:<br />
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The central issue here appears to be whether or not the patient was
showing signs of infection. If not then it is quite typical, as I
understand it, for management to be expectant. That is, to wait for
labour to start, but usually within a given time frame and with close
monitoring for signs of chorioamnionitis.<br /><br />If infection is
present, there seems to be agreement in most places that induction would
be normal management. However, as the article in the Hindu Times I
linked to above says, it could be that inducing a woman already in
septic shock may dramatically worsen her condition.<br /><br />This is why I
say that crises such as these are managed on a case by case basis,
taking a number of other clinical factors into account.<br /><br /><a href="http://www1.cgmh.org.tw/intr/intr5/c6700/obgyn/f/web/PROM/index.htm" target="_blank">Here's one article</a> I found which explains management quite clearly..</blockquote>
This
quote refers to PPROM in the second trimester, which was the stage of
pregnancy that Savita was at. It explains that, in the absence of
infection, such patients may even be managed at home ( actually, in some
ways this may be safer, from an infection control point of view,
because hospital environments are full of foreign pathogens):<br /><br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq">
"Chorioamnionitis
occurs in 30-60% of patients with second trimester PPROM. The risk of
infection increases with duration of ROM and an AFI less than 2.0 cm.
Frequent exams are necessary to ensure maternal safety. Patients need to
be educated about the warning signs of intraamniotic infection and need
to take their temperature 3 times a day at home. These patients do not
need to be cared for in the hospital if no evidence of vaginal bleeding
or infection exists. They may consider admission for inpatient
management at 24 weeks, which currently is considered the point of
viability at most institutions." </blockquote>
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A couple of other things. There have been frequent references to the open cervix being akin to "an open head wound". The state of the cervix is more significant in terms of the inevitability of miscarriage. It is the torn membranes that pose a risk of infection.<br />
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Secondly, many commenters have said that the doctors ought to have agreed to termination of the pregnancy because the patient asked for it. But patient request, particularly in extremis, is not always good grounds for making important decisions about clinical management.<br />
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A personal anecdote here:<br />
In September 2007 I was in labour with twins. I had been told that Olivia, "twin one", was dead.<br />
Because we didn't know what had killed her and whether twin two might be next, I elected to have an emergency caesarean section. The prospect of labouring naturally, knowing that I would have to birth my stilborn baby first and that the living one might be at risk, was too frightening.<br />
Traumatised and in shock, I'm ashamed to say that at this point I <i>begged</i> the registrar to sterilise me.<br />
She refused saying that I wasn't in a fit state to know my own mind on the matter..<br />
I insisted that I did and pleaded with her again, saying that I knew for a certainty that I couldn't go through this again.<br />
She firmly refused. <br />
Days later I was longing with all my heart to be pregnant again and grateful beyond words for her "no".<br />
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The desperately sad death of Savita Halapannaver along with her unborn daughter at only 17 weeks gestation is a grim blow to her poor husband and a salutory reminder to the rest of us that life, even with all the technological and medical advantages that our generation enjoys, is still fragile.<br />
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There will be an enquiry and an inquest and until then, the staff involved will not be able to speak about what happened. All we have to go on by way of information is the account of her devastated husband. <br />
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One can only imagine how dazed, confused and angry he must be. How does the human heart begin to absorb such a thing? To lose one's young wife just as she was looking forward to motherhood is a shattering reversal of fortune. It is completely understandable that he should be angry. Necessary even. Everyone's heart is moved to pity for the man who has had his life, his hopes and his love ripped away from him.<br />
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But as a midwife, my thoughts are also with the staff at the hospital where she died. I know that they will be in shock and grief. Maternity care is wonderfully fulfilling and challenging, it is also hugely demanding, physically, mentally and emotionally. No crisis is straightforward, even with the best clinical protocols in place, critical issues are dealt with on a case by case basis. Sometimes mistakes are made. Genuine errors, with catastrophic consequences. <br />
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What happens when you make a mistake at work? All responsibilities are stressful and burdensome at times, but imagine if your mistake potentially cost the life of two people who depended upon you for their well being?<br />
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I still recall with a chill the time when, as a student midwife, I infiltrated a perineum with lignocaine, anticipating the need for an episiotomy. We had learned how important it was to draw back the plunger to make sure the needle hadn't entered a blood vessel since, we were told, should lignocaine enter the bloodstream it could bind irreversibly to cardiac muscle and cause the heart to arrest. For some reason, amongst all the other dire warnings and 'thou shalt nots' my imagination was particularly seized by this picture. I turned over in my mind the horror of such a calamity happening in so banal a way. <br />
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So when, just after depressing the plunger, the labouring mother gasped weakly that she felt odd, that she couldn't see properly and was finding it hard to breathe, I was stricken with the thought that I had failed to do that vital check. I felt as though my brain was on fire and the joints in my knees literally began to give way. All I could think was that I had killed a mother just as her baby was entering the world.<br />
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Happily, it soon became apparent that I had done no such thing. The mother had merely been hyper ventilating and had become light headed. But I couldn't speak for fright. I handed over the scissors to the midwife who was with me. She took one look at my ashen face and understood that I had lost my nerve, but she didn't realise why until afterwards in the staff room when I told her how the bottom had fallen out of my world in that moment.<br />
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A friend of mine, tired towards the morning, having spent the entire night shift with a labouring woman, made an error that could very nearly have been fatal for the baby. A shot of pethidine for a multiparous woman in transition, very nearly fully dilated and ready to push her baby out, having laboured with no pain relief was now asking for something to get her over the final hump. After delivering the shot, he double checked the syringe and realised that instead of pethidine he had given her syntometrine. A drug which is given just as the baby is emerging, the effect of which is to cause the uterus to clamp down and cause the placenta to detach from its wall. A potentially catastrophic error of enormous magnitude. Obviously, until the baby is actually born, the last thing you want is the placenta to detach itself from the uterine wall. <br />
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Happily, unlike me with the lignocaine, he kept an extremely clear head. He quickly examined the woman, "encouraging" the cervix, now almost fully dilated, to open up all the way, and encouraged the mother to give a big push. This being her third or fourth labour a few pushes were all it took to get the baby out and everything ended well.<br />
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On another occasion I attended one of the monthly meetings held on labour ward where obstetricians highlighted some of that months difficult cases and peer reviewed the clinical management decisions. What went well, what some would have done differently etc. <br />
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One of the team put a picture on the overhead projector of a chubby stillborn infant. I stared at the greatly enlarged picture on the wall waiting for the awful account of whatever obstetric disaster had led to this. I remember the silence in the room as he paused before saying "This, is a healthy term infant, delivered by forceps at 40 weeks and 3 days. The only thing wrong with him...is that he is dead." <br />
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The senior registrar who had delivered the baby was in the room, with this evidence of her catastrophic failure before her, and us. And I felt the crushing weight, the awfulness of that. It seems that she had been called out in the night to this woman who had failed to progress in labour, attempted a somewhat difficult rotational forceps delivery, and in doing so ruptured the woman's uterus. The baby died and the woman had a life saving hysterectomy. Left with a dead baby and no hope of getting another one.<br />
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I don't know the extent of the senior registrars responsibility. But I shudder when I imagine how she must have felt.<br />
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So when the news of the hapless Savita's death emerged, my thoughts, as well as being naturally with her husband were also with the team of people who had been caring for her. No doubt they are shocked and traumatised too and many will be reproaching themselves for failures, real or imagined.<br />
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Despite the fact that actual hard information about this case is very thin on the ground, the story was quickly spun into a narrative in which she died because she was denied an abortion by staff so blinkered and hamstrung by religious dogma that they refused to act to save her life.<br />
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That she died owing to the denial of abortion on the grounds that Ireland "is a Catholic country" has been uncritically accepted and enthusiastically exploited by pro choice groups apparently seeking to make political capital out of this human tragedy. With the facts still far from clear, there has been an unseemly rush to appropriate the deceased young mother as an abortion rights martyr who died at the hands of Catholic doctors claiming that they couldn't help her because this was a "catholic country"<br />
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There are far more questions than answers at this stage, and no doubt there will be a proper enquiry which will thoroughly scrutinise the clinical judgements made in the management of this case. It is beyond grotesque however to witness the exploitation of such a desperately tragic circumstance by those who are evidently much more interested in abortion rights than sound maternity care.<br />
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A few sound bites from the subsequent feeding frenzy among the clear eyed apostles of evidence and reason:<br />
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<a href="https://mobile.twitter.com/RichardDawkins/status/268731272967376896" target="_blank" title="">Richard Dawkins tweets that " Irish Catholic bigotry kills woman"</a><br />
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Yet another announces that a <a href="https://mobile.twitter.com/amaenad/status/268625395304259585" target="_blank" title="">" European hospital tortures a woman to death over ideology.</a> And adds for good rhetorical measure: "this is gender based violence"<br />
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The inflammatory and irresponsible title of <a href="http://www.michaelnugent.com/2012/11/14/tragedy-shame-and-outrage-as-pregnant-savita-dies-in-irish-hospital-because-of-catholic-dogma-and-political-cowardice/" target="_blank">this</a> post "Woman dies in hospital because of catholic dogma" ( by a blogger whose stated aim is to promote reason, critical thinking and <a href="http://www.michaelnugent.com/2012/08/24/a-draft-manifesto-to-promote-ethical-atheism/" target="_blank" title="">ethical atheism</a> ) set the tone for the hysteria which played out in the comments.<br />
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I weighed in with the caveat that all the information was not available. No one can assume to know all the facts in advance of an enquiry. <br />
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At this point it isn't at all clear whether Savita's E.coli infection had even been <i>identified</i> until it was already a galloping sepsis. In one of the <a href="http://www.irishtimes.com/audio/2012/11/savita-14112012.mp3" target="_blank" title="">audio interviews with the husband</a> he seems to say that infection was initially ruled out and that she <i>was</i> given prophylactic antibiotics when she was admitted on Sunday.<br />
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That night she was told that she would lose the baby. On Monday she asked for an abortion because she found it distressing listening to the heartbeat and "just couldn't take it". Mr. Halapannaver doesn't say that she or anyone felt, at this stage that her life was at risk if management continued expectantly, it seems here as though her request for an abortion was in order to bring her distressing circumstance to a close.<br />
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Her husband Praveen describes her as being 'fine', albeit distressed, until Tuesday evening when she started to feel ill. The following day she is taken to theatre, and after that her condition rapidly deteriorates. He describes her as being critically ill on Thursday and on Friday Praveen is told she has an E.coli infection and she is put on dialysis. By Saturday she is in multi organ failure and on Sunday she dies. <br />
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In interviews elsewhere it appears that she didn't start antibiotics till Tuesday. Who knows what that means. Perhaps by Tuesday the lab report had come back and shown that she had an E.coli infection which was resistant to the antibiotics she was already on and her presription was changed?<br />
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In the absence of evidence of infection, abortion is not a typical treatment for pre term labour with ruptured membranes. Antibiotic prophylaxis is, as is very close monitoring ( bloods, temp, physical signs etc) . There is no real evidence yet that abortion would have made one bit of difference to the sad outcome in this case. It seemed to me as though pro choicers had seized upon this story to dishonestly claim that abortion would have certainly saved her life and that the decision of the team managing her care had been skewed by blind adherence to religious dogma.<br />
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I said that such a scenario as Savita presented with is not completely unusual and whether she aborted or not, what she most needed was presumably close monitoring and timely, effective prophylactic antibiotics. There are a number of similar cases of women who have also died of septicaemia following legal abortion. Had this unfortunate woman aborted, precisely the same risks of infection would likely have remained.<br />
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Here are some of the responses. I put them here because I think it is instructive how quickly the debate moved to personal attack. It demonstates the ugly tendency among those with political agendas, to cynically exploit a terrible human tragedy, beefing up the facts in order to score goals and, in this case, fashion a stick with which to beat pro life Ireland. <br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i>"Be honest, Clare, you don’t care about the women, all you care about are the fetuses. You don’t care that what happened here stopped Savita’s beating heart. And, to be blunt, you are cruel and heartless."</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">"<i>Everybody who treated her should be thrown in prison for murder. They knew exactly what would happen.</i>"</span></div>
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Humanity and kindness abounds among the hysterical Apostles of Tolerance! Wishing for the early death of a mother of six children is a strange way to demonstrate concern for the early death of the mother in question here.<br />
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That Savita has been claimed as an abortion rights martyr by pro choicers eager to make inroads into Ireland's abortion laws is simply repulsive to me. The protest they held outside the Irish embassy in London would have looked a damned sight more sincere were it not for their deafening silence over the death by post abortion sepsis of <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2206202/Teen-mum-abortion-wasnt-ready-second-baby-died-contracting-superbug-procedure.html" target="_blank" title="">Jessie Maye Barlow</a> . Or that of 18 year old <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1026005/Mothers-heartbreak-A-level-student-dies-weeks-taking-abortion-drugs.html" target="_blank" title="">Manon Jones.</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/doubling-of-maternal-death-rate-blamed-on-shortage-of-midwives-7689172.html" target="_blank" title="">In London <b><i>alone</i></b></a>, more than 100 mothers have died in childbirth over the last five years. That's <u>more than 100 mothers</u> who died in our capital city, none of whom were honoured by a single candle lit vigil outside an embassy, or Parliament, or the Department of Health as far as I'm aware.<br />
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<a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/news/datablog/2010/apr/12/maternal-mortality-rates-millennium-development-goals" target="_blank" title="">While the UK trails at a pitiful 23rd in the global ranking league tables for maternal mortality,</a> Ireland sits way above us in 6th place. Giving them ample reason to justifiably say that they are one of the safest countries in the world for a pregnant mother.<br />
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Hello abortion rights campaigners angrily denouncing Ireland's religiously motivated "killing" of women. Can you see perhaps why your sudden interest in Savita alone seems more than a little disingenuous to me? <br />
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<a href="https://www.npeu.ox.ac.uk/ukoss/current-surveillance/ss" target="_blank" title="">Sepsis is now the <i><b>leading</b></i> cause of maternal mortality in the UK.</a> So it's more than a bit rich when Brits congregate outside the Irish embassy in London to lament neglect of women in Irish hospitals.<br />
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It would be nice to see an outbreak of reason among the soi disant "<a href="http://www.the-brights.net/vision/essays/let_there_be_brights.html" target="_blank" title="">Brights</a>" such as Richard Dawkins and co. How about they wait for the results of the enquiry and set about <i>getting our own house in orde</i>r before lighting the torches and galvanising the mob for a lynching?<br />
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I have moved the update to a new post <a href="http://mybattlementsofrubies.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/an-update-to-my-last-post-on-maternal.html" target="_blank">here</a>.<br />
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Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-31039530773596709722012-08-07T01:39:00.003+01:002012-08-07T02:10:27.268+01:00Fr Alan James Fudge. First anniversary.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipXCfC-OA1ZDt_xWlANbfJIhGAgSnMX3_9Q0hwBwWXoh4atqH26JPnhKvys57AoU6OX4iS1cJxP0qS0Thk1NbQ98rnfgg__C1sdBLkQbQ2XaptQ4wkJkKxQNvrhzCneTlrLQxZTyiVlBHK/s1600/fr+alan.bmp" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipXCfC-OA1ZDt_xWlANbfJIhGAgSnMX3_9Q0hwBwWXoh4atqH26JPnhKvys57AoU6OX4iS1cJxP0qS0Thk1NbQ98rnfgg__C1sdBLkQbQ2XaptQ4wkJkKxQNvrhzCneTlrLQxZTyiVlBHK/s1600/fr+alan.bmp" /></a></div><span class="ecxApple-style-span" style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;"><br />
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<div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">He made his final Passover at 3 o'clock in the morning of the 5th August 2011 as his companions recited the Creed. He died "Professing the Faith of Our Holy Mother the Church" as he had expressly hoped in an earlier letter concerning his wishes for his funeral.</div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">With beautiful timing it was the day after the feast of St John Vianney, patron saint of parish priests, and just before the feast of the Transfiguration. </div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;"><br />
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</div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">The Mass yesterday was beautiful. The church was packed, and the Homily was given by the recently ordained Fr Ivano. Fr Alan had attended his ordination to the diaconate in June last year, just two months before he left us. Fr Ivano reminded us that he has left very clear instructions for his funeral. One of these was that he wanted no panegyric, just a simple announcement of the Kerygma. The Good News of Jesus Christ in whom death has been conquered. Alleluia! </div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">In his funeral, as throughout his ministry as a priest, Fr Alan preached Christ to us.</div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">I was sitting near the baptismal font where he baptised our youngest Marie-Aibhlinn and over which he had lain in his coffin the night before his funeral at the Cathedral. To see him resting there had certainly made vivid the powerful symbolism of the baptismal waters. </div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;">I thought about the Israelites crossing the Red Sea, about Christ's baptism in the Jordan, about Blessed John Paul II venerating his own baptismal font in Wadowice, about all the souls Fr Alan brought into the life of Grace in that font and about my own death. I hope I die as holy a death as Fr Alan.</div><div style="font-family: Noteworthy; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 24px;"><br />
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</span></div>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-44212333575750054572012-08-03T02:55:00.001+01:002012-08-03T02:55:39.720+01:00Responding to criticisms of 40 days For Life. Part One.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLn2pL-hWndBAa6MdnFVd-hUBwXQMrGjkBA43qViuJNNSSWE4dlaMgg0fSCMBOdR4BlY6jJE3MTJPR2UxpDuveNnHrz0VjAd3tE0vuDqf44gtCIY8s77GWXhCIJQgCMhGPnR22L2sBPPfN/s1600/40d4life2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="360" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLn2pL-hWndBAa6MdnFVd-hUBwXQMrGjkBA43qViuJNNSSWE4dlaMgg0fSCMBOdR4BlY6jJE3MTJPR2UxpDuveNnHrz0VjAd3tE0vuDqf44gtCIY8s77GWXhCIJQgCMhGPnR22L2sBPPfN/s640/40d4life2.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />
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So here it is, as promised in my <a href="http://mybattlementsofrubies.blogspot.co.uk/2012/08/let-illiberal-pro-lifer-be-unto-you-as.html">previous post</a>, and slightly redacted here and there to remove personal details and irrelevant verbiage, my pro life apologia. Part one:<br />
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<i>Dear A</i><br />
<i>I understand your concerns about the possible intimidation of women who are already in an enormously stressful situation. I would be horrified too if I thought that some of the reported accounts of what happens at 40 Days For Life were accurate. However I think it is a shame you didn't feel able to discuss this with me first, if only to give me an opportunity to explain a little more..</i><br />
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<i>I think there is much about this issue and my involvement with it that you misunderstand. I try to keep in mind that people who hold contrary positions to my own usually do so out of the best of intentions. Often we want the same thing, but our vision for how to achieve that may differ considerably.</i><br />
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<i>I too am greatly concerned about the rights of women, but I believe the rhetoric of choice, applied to abortion, is deeply misleading. Abortion hurts more women than it helps.</i><br />
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<i>A woman doesn't 'choose' abortion like she chooses a home, a husband or a career. She chooses it like a trapped animal chooses to gnaw off its own leg to get away. This is the choice that confronts many women who choose abortion. For them, to choose abortion is to exercise a 'non choice'. They choose abortion precisely because they feel they have 'no choice'. Many of them are under enormous pressure from family, often a mother or a boyfriend to abort. They are told that unless they abort, they will get no support. Alone and abandoned they feel that they have no other option available to them.</i><br />
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<i>For these women, an encounter with a pro lifer is often the first time they have encountered someone who has responded to their pregnancy as something other than an insuperable disaster. They are offered whatever help and support they feel they need, practical, financial and emotional. And that help is ongoing for as long as they feel they need it. Sometimes this will be many years. This is something that BPAS and Marie Stopes cannot offer. The only "help" on offer from such places is an abortion.</i><br />
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<i>The decision to seek an abortion is not a straightforward one of choice. Many of the women helped by pro lifers are those who fall through the cracks of society. Some of these women are illegals, working in the black economy, with no access to benefits of any kind. Some are foreign students who have invested everything in the opportunity to study here and are without family or friend support of any kind. They can get an abortion free on the NHS but must pay for any obstetric care they receive. Where is the "choice" for women like these? For them, the idea of 'choice' is mere empty rhetoric, because they simply have none. There are many women such as these, who have been supported to keep their babies who would otherwise have aborted because they felt that they had no other choice.</i><br />
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<i>A couple of months ago, one Sunday during an aggressive pro choice 'counter protest' outside the clinic, a middle aged woman got out of a car and approached a friend of mine wanting to know what was going on. When my friend explained about the vigil she became very emotional. She said that March was a very difficult time of year for her. More than 20 years previously, she had had an abortion and was still carrying the pain of that experience. She tearfully hugged my friend and said " I wish you had been there for me all those years ago, because no one was there for me then. I was all alone" This is a story we hear many, many times.</i><br />
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<i>Many of the people involved in pro life work are themselves post abortive and have found healing in helping other women in crisis pregnancies, and also in helping other post abortive women who are struggling to come to terms with their experiences. Shattered by the pain of abortion, many of these women have become the most eloquent and impassioned defenders of everyone's right to life.</i><br />
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<i>Having experienced a pregnancy full of panic, depression and feelings of being unable to cope, and having been helped through that by the unending kindness and patience of people like your sister D, whose goodness to me I will never forget, my heart is torn to pieces when i think about those women who find themselves alone, unsupported and afraid. And having subsequently lost one of the babies I so noisily complained about, I quail to imagine the depths of anguish that such women feel when their immediate crisis passes and they look back on what they have lost. This is how my pro life consciousness became activated. I suddenly saw that this was an issue of NON choice for many women. And that many, many women are silently carrying the unspeakable pain of abortion.</i><br />
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<i>At least a woman who has had a stillbirth or a miscarriage feels that sympathy for her loss may be legitimately sought and received. The woman who has ended her own pregnancy is often left carrying the can for "her choice". This makes her suffering all the more ferocious.</i><br />
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<i>The media has massively twisted what happens at 40 Days For Life. They have tried to present it as an American style 'protest' which it isn't at all. At all vigils there is a sign displayed prominently saying "we are here to help". And the help that is on offer is real, as many women will attest. No-one is judging, condemning or bullying but trying to offer a lifeline.</i><br />
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<i>It is grotesquely wrong and unfair to conflate peaceful pro life outreach with the murder of abortionists. All pro lifers are appalled by violence, because we believe that all human life is worthy of our respect and protection. A few lone crazies do not represent any organisation or movement. It would be equally wrong to tar all peaceful Muslims with the 9/11 brush, or all atheists with the murderous purges of Stalin, Pol Pot or the French Revolution.</i><br />
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<i>I don't want to see a return to "back street abortions", I am far more ambitious than that. I want a society where no woman ever feels she has "no choice" but to abort her unborn child. I want to promote a new way of looking at life. Abortion hurts women.</i><br />
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<i>Despite the euphemistic language that surrounds it, everyone knows that abortion involves the ending of a human life, and that is why you quite <u>rightly</u> say that the decision to abort is "one of the most difficult and heartbreaking" that anyone is ever likely to face. </i><br />
<i>It is always wrong, in my opinion, to kill a living human being. That is not to deny that some women face the most horrendous circumstances. They do. And there are no tidy solutions to some of life's grimmest problems. But far harder I think, to walk with a woman in difficult circumstances, and try to share some of her burden.</i><br />
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<i>I don't feel the shame that you say is rightfully mine. I dont feel ashamed because I am so convinced of the inestimable value of every human life, and of our obligation to defend the weakest and most vulnerable members of our human society. This is a matter of conscience for me and although I am sad to lose your good opinion of me, it would be sadder by far for me to silence my conscience in this, or any other respect, in order to secure the esteem of friends.</i><br />
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<i>All this said, I know that you are a wonderful person and that you see this issue in a very different light. I may not be able to convince you of my own good intentions, and I almost certainly will not be able to convince you to see things from my vantage point, but I hope that you will be able to find a way to accommodate, if not exactly celebrate, my 'diversity' in this respect.</i>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-70588649384873665452012-08-02T02:25:00.006+01:002017-12-14T17:53:19.948+00:00let the pro lifer be unto you as a heathen and a tax collector.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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One minute we were rolling down the literary highway, the next we were standing on the hard shoulder.</div>
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I got an admonishing email from a book club buddy..</div>
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A VERY admonishing email. The kind that ends with a final deprecating "Shame on you"</div>
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Seems I've been rumbled. </div>
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My involvement with 40 Days For Life would appear to be in the same category, pariah wise, as belonging to the BNP.</div>
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So my liberal minded book buddy had little option she felt, but to call me out on my "behaviour". </div>
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After all, as she put it, if I was a racist she would have a moral obligation to call me out on that too. To remain silent she said, would make her feel "complicit" in my actions, actions which in truth, she explained, horrified her.</div>
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Such is the heavy moral obligation incumbent on the right minded liberal thinker these days.</div>
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So the email listed all the ways in which my "behaviour" represented such an affront that the book club really couldn't continue without addressing the issue and helping me see the magnitude of my error. And ultimately it seems, my recanting.</div>
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That my presence outside the clinic is tantamount to bullying women who are at their lowest ebb, facing "the most difficult and heartbreaking decision that anyone is ever likely to make"</div>
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That the right to safe and legal abortion worldwide is paramount, and that I, and 40 Days For Life, put this hard fought right at risk.</div>
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That I open up the country to "more extreme elements", and increase the likelihood of violence such as the shooting of abortionists.</div>
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That I terrify women, making it more likely that they will "take matters into their own hands". Her principal concern was, she said, above all for the safety of these women.</div>
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That for all the babies lives saved by 40 Days For Life , there are many others "damaged, destroyed and cut short" by their campaigns.</div>
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I won't go into all the too'ing and fro'ing, but suffice to say that it stirred up a hornets nest.</div>
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The next book club was slated as an air clearing session.</div>
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It's hard to enjoy the nibbles and Sauv Blanc when you feel like a counter revolutionary in a Maoist struggle session.</div>
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But along I went nonetheless, to face the music.</div>
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Oh, anyway, I don't think I have the heart to hash it all out here, but the long and the short is that the book club would now appear to be at an end. </div>
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Having attended the 'air clearing' it wasn't quite the Star Chamber experience I was expecting. They didn't tar and feather me.</div>
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It was rather polite. And heartbreaking actually.</div>
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These are my friends of many years standing.</div>
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I'd been told that everyone was in agreement, but in fact two or three of the book clubbers said they were on the fence on the issue and just wanted the club to continue regardless.</div>
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Having already sent two emails responding in detail to most of the indictments, I said very little. I felt I'd already said most of what needed to be said.<br />
I felt that for me, the most significant question was whether I could continue enjoying the book club, and their company, despite feeling so 'disapproved of'. Oddly perhaps, I felt I could. I wasn't expecting approval anyway.<br />
And this seemed like one of those 'potential' moments, when the "tolerance in diversity" rubber really hits the hard road. I wanted to hang in there.<br />
But the most significant questions was theirs.<br />
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Well, at the heels of the hunt, the book club came to an impasse. <span style="background-color: white;">Three of the book clubbers resigned. They felt that what had happened had made the book club itself untenable for them. </span><br />
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Having poured out my heart about the pro life issue in two emails, in which I answer the charges which were put to me, it occurs to me that it might be worth leaving the relevant parts of my responses here on my blog. In part because I know that my book club are not the only ones among my friends who are mystified or even angry or repulsed by my pro life activities. Some of them read my blog, others may stumble across it.</div>
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Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-81399592794576101032012-05-25T01:40:00.000+01:002012-05-25T01:40:42.832+01:00The women Victoria Derbyshire didn't meet.Clare and Stuart of the Good Counsel Network really do walk the pro life talk. In fact, they don't seem to do very much "talk" at all. They're too busy getting on with the business of walking alongside women who find themselves in the most desperate circumstances imaginable. In some cases they will continue to walk alongside them for years. Many of the women they help are those for whom the idea of "choice" is an ironically cruel slogan. Alone and with no means of support whatsoever, some of the women who come to them feel they have "no choice" but to end their pregnancies.
This is a post I was sent about some women they have helped. I am happy to share it here.
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You will probably have heard by now about this programme at 10am today on BBC Radio 5 Live;
<em>"Victoria </em>[Derbyshire] <em>speaks to doctors, nurses and patients live from an abortion clinic [sic]</em>.
It is hard to believe that this will be anything other than a bit of pro-death propaganda. No doubt some of the tragedy of abortion may come through, but it will be presented as a necessary evil, and a better option than raising a child in difficult circumstances - ultimately a good thing for society, but hard. That's our bet anyway. If you are listening-in, please don't hesitate to give some feedback to provide balance. The details are:
<em>Call 0500 909693 [free from most landlines; other networks may vary]. Text:
85058 [standard message rate]. Email: <a href="mailto:Victoria@bbc.co.uk">Victoria@bbc.co.uk</a>. Twitter: @vicderbyshire.
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If you would like to hear the other side of the story, the real help that women need, and what it is like for a woman who changes her mind at the abortuary doorstep, or what it is like for those who go through the abortion because they have no other choice, or if you want to hear from someone who spends her life providing real help to women in crisis pregnancies, read on. <a href="http://loveundefiled.blogspot.co.uk/"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">Robert Colquhoun</span></a> of 40 Days for Life, has interviewed 4 such women at the Good Counsel Centre.
Here are interviews with two women who turned around on the doorsteps of the abortuary, because Catholics were there to offer them help, when both felt had that they had no choice. <a href="http://www.divshare.com/download/17571772-a3d"><span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">http://www.divshare.com/download/17571772-a3d</span></a> (10 minutes) & <a href="http://www.divshare.com/download/17571864-4dc"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">http://www.divshare.com/download/17571864-4dc</span></a> (20 minutes)
This third women has had an abortion and needs her vioce to be heard. Please send this link to everyone you know; <a href="http://www.divshare.com/download/17571931-cd3"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">http://www.divshare.com/download/17571931-cd3</span></a> (20 minutes)
Finally here is Ronni a volunteer with Good Counsel; <a href="http://www.divshare.com/download/17571913-6ce"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">http://www.divshare.com/download/17571913-6ce</span></a> (11 minutes)
To give Mums-to-be a real chioce involves a lot of <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/Abortuary-Vigils.html"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">time</span></a>, <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/Donate.html"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">money</span></a> and <a href="http://www.goodcounselnet.co.uk/Days-of-Prayer-and-Fasting.html"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);">prayer</span></a>, - we don't have enough of any of these to help all the turnarounds currently needing our help - if we all do our bit to help, even more lives will be saved. Please spread the word.
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It is a privilege and a joy to follow the Cross of Christ in the streets with my brothers and sisters.Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-14339141325438424442012-03-25T13:26:00.001+01:002012-03-25T14:58:01.245+01:00Spin, Lies and Videotape: 40 Days For Life<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj37M2X_rEJrW1htGlMooZRbOrM9AjExX2QRp401anjbK98vVkgXfI37ZPPUVTbC97ckHIKio6rVk2HyLHhN74UgSpsdZ6h1rdSPlMiqr1n_9eCjlyeQeZIDhglQjj7hSetAfx3FgZKTIgV/s1600/8+wk+fetus.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><br />
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Given the nature of what is happening there, and the attention that 40 DFL is getting- especially among 'pro choicers' for whom the good behaviour of those involved poses an interesting problem - those on the vigil are under intense scrutiny for anything with which the opposition could make hay.<br />
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Filming around the square, especially if done by someone apparently simpatico to the pro life cause, was always going to be potentially incendiary.<br />
I don't know whether the camera was <i>only</i> trained on those who were being interviewed, or whether it swung around to take in the Square, including the clinic itself. I cannot believe that anyone would be so enormously crass as to purposefully "film the women going in and out", as has been alleged. Certainly that remains an allegation with no actual factual support. But no matter, this is what has been reported in the press, for as we know, a lie can travel twice around the world before the truth has got its boots on.<br />
Nonetheless, even the <i>possibility</i> of such filming <u>is</u> naturally terribly upsetting and invasive for any woman visiting the clinic and for that reason, best avoided altogether in my opinion.<br />
What we have seen is the pro choice lobby quickly taking full advantage of this incident and <a href="http://www.abortionrights.org.uk/content/view/457/1/">spinning it</a> into a narrative in which 40 Days For Life <b>themselves</b> were filming women going in and out for the purpose of intimidating them.<br />
A <a href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/today/hi/today/newsid_9705000/9705877.stm">reporter from the BBC Today programme visited the square </a>and asked about reports that women were "encircled and shouted at", a scenario SO depressingly spurious that it was plain, to me that there was some mischievous misrepresentation of the actuality going on.<br />
During some ensuing Twitter conversations with the concerned and the outraged , I have put it to them that the cameraman was not himself part of the vigil, and that he was just filming those who were.<br />
How much authority, I wondered, are those who attend the vigil expected to have over other people who turn up and film in the Square?<br />
A couple of days after this incident I was in the Square and a man from Reuters was spending lots of time taking pictures with his great big conspicuous Press camera. He wouldn't give his name and told me he didn't need anyone's permission and could take pictures whether we liked it or not.<br />
The day before this ( a day after the filming brouhaha had broke) Sunny Hundal of the blog Liberal Conspiracy, visited the Square to interview people on the vigil.<br />
He called his post "<a href="http://liberalconspiracy.org/2012/03/14/anti-abortion-preachers-caught-on-film/">Anti Abortion Preachers Caught On Film</a>"<br />
Ironically, it might have been called "The Hypocrisy and Conceit of So Called Pro Choicers Caught On Film"<br />
Take a look at the video. Watch where the camera goes at about 1.17 minutes in:<br />
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See that? <u>It pans right around and films the clinic entrance itself.</u><br />
The very thing 40 Days for Life are accused of doing.<br />
Or at least accused of not <i>stopping</i>.<br />
So I suppose they were doubly guilty for not also stopping Sunny himself?<br />
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Sunny is mostly the one holding the camera.<br />
But then an interesting conversation developed. This time, not about the alleged filming of women, but about the accuracy of the fetal models which were kept in a small black box..<br />
Most of the talking is done by a woman who identifies herself as Heather Wallace. She presents herself to them as being an expert in fetal development and someone who knows what she is talking about when she critiques the accuracy of the fetal models. Models which by the way, were positioned with those praying on the <b>other</b> side of the road to the clinic.<br />
The two men who she is talking to say little, and don't take much issue with her repeated insistence that "it doesn't look like that!" as she fingers a model of an eight week fetus.<br />
In fairness to them, they have turned up to pray, and haven't made any claims of expertise for themselves in the area of embryology.<br />
Likely they were also mindful of the 40 DFL <a href="http://www.40daysforlife.com/london/documents/Statement%20of%20Peace.docx">statement of peace</a> and unwilling to be drawn into an argument.<br />
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I sensed that her lexicon was not typical of a specialist and that she was likely to be pretty much bluffing about the extent of her knowledge in this area. I guessed that she was someone with probably enough tangential experience to give her the confidence to challenge, on the assumption that the men she was talking to probably wouldn't know any better.<br />
Besides, I believe an 8 week embryo <b>does</b> pretty well "look like that". <br />
I left a question on Sunny's blog asking where Heather got her information from and what then, she thinks the 8 week embryo <b>does</b> look like.<br />
Turns out she works in medical publishing.<br />
And she never did come back to say what she thinks the eight week embryo looks like.<br />
So in the interests of clarity and accuracy, I thought I'd post pictures of the model in question and show you detailed colour pictures of an embryo of the same gestation.<br />
You can judge for yourselves whether or not you think "it doesn't look like that!"<br />
Here are some photos of the actual model Heather objected to:<br />
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Here are some photos of actual embryos of 8 weeks gestation:<br />
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Here is a fetus at 7 weeks and 4 days:<br />
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And here is one at 9 weeks:<br />
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This is a very good quality video of an ultrasound at 9 wks 2 days.<br />
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And finally, at 10 weeks gestation, still in the intact amnion, held in a gloved hand.<br />
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Did you burn the bread sauce?<br />
Argue with grandma?<br />
Hit the Baileys and wail dementedly over the sherryless sherry trifle?<br />
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This story is about to cock your turkey traumas and internecine festive squabbles into a cocked hat.<br />
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<a href="http://abcnews.go.com/US/okla-woman-shoots-kills-intruder911-operators-shoot/story?id=15285605">This young mother</a> lost her husband to cancer on Christmas day.<br />
She is alone a week later, on new years eve, with her three month old baby, when two intruders, one armed with a hunting knife, try to break into her home.<br />
She thinks she recognises one of the men as someone who had been stalking her.<br />
She puts the baby in the cot with a bottle to keep him quiet. She picks up a "12 gauge" and a pistol. She calls 911 and asks the operator if she can shoot him.<br />
The operator, while not exactly telling her that she <i>can</i> shoot, tells her that she must do whatever she can to protect her baby.<br />
The men outside start to break down her front door as she stands waiting, with her gun cocked.<br />
As soon as the first man sets foot over the threshold, she fires the gun and kills him. His accomplice legs it.<br />
It all sounds too incredible, and nightmarish, to be true. But the recording of the 911 call is<a href="http://abcnews.go.com/US/okla-woman-shoots-kills-intruder911-operators-shoot/story?id=15285605#.TwTVClZS6_i"> here</a>, and the poilce appear to verify her story.<br />
Oh and by the way, she's eighteen.<br />
<i>Eighteen!</i><br />
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Talk about Mama Bear.<i> </i><br />
<i> </i>As the spunky lady says<i>, there's nothing more dangerous than a mother with her child.</i><br />
Oh yes.<i><br />
</i>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-11824634285683789142012-01-03T02:02:00.000+00:002012-01-03T02:02:28.691+00:00...I'm always late posting Christmas cards<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOpe9-LNU40TsDi4aL1MC8S1bI9Y8snAUIOeANGV7hkmHzrbhLxq9tNdaPRJF1NuvCia6FicD-2E98w-MA4aSXMeFPvz3MRh0XYjblkJOQrtEqrZl_gbn8ZbYg1w8qMOX_bUlHa3565JpX/s1600/christmas+card+2011.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="456" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOpe9-LNU40TsDi4aL1MC8S1bI9Y8snAUIOeANGV7hkmHzrbhLxq9tNdaPRJF1NuvCia6FicD-2E98w-MA4aSXMeFPvz3MRh0XYjblkJOQrtEqrZl_gbn8ZbYg1w8qMOX_bUlHa3565JpX/s640/christmas+card+2011.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />
<div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Wishing you all a year of Grace in 2012.</span></div><div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><span style="font-family: Verdana;"><strong><span style="color: #790000;">"May the Lord be with you always and, wherever you are, may you be with Him always, Amen."</span></strong> <span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">(Blessing of Saint Clare)</span></span></span>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-25732231772923334892012-01-01T22:48:00.001+00:002012-01-01T22:50:23.293+00:00Veni, Creator Spiritus!<table border="0" cellpadding="10" cellspacing="2"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;"><span style="color: #af0000;">V</span><span style="color: #af0000;">ENI</span>, Creator Spiritus,<br />
mentes tuorum visita,<br />
imple superna gratia<br />
quae tu creasti pectora. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;"><span style="color: #af0000;">C</span><span style="color: #af0000;">OME</span>, Holy Spirit, Creator blest,<br />
and in our souls take up Thy rest;<br />
come with Thy grace and heavenly aid<br />
to fill the hearts which Thou hast made. </td></tr>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Qui diceris Paraclitus,<br />
altissimi donum Dei,<br />
fons vivus, ignis, caritas,<br />
et spiritalis unctio. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">O comforter, to Thee we cry,<br />
O heavenly gift of God Most High,<br />
O fount of life and fire of love,<br />
and sweet anointing from above. </td></tr>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Tu, septiformis munere,<br />
digitus paternae dexterae,<br />
Tu rite promissum Patris,<br />
sermone ditans guttura. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Thou in Thy sevenfold gifts are known;<br />
Thou, finger of God's hand we own;<br />
Thou, promise of the Father, Thou<br />
Who dost the tongue with power imbue. </td></tr>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Accende lumen sensibus:<br />
infunde amorem cordibus:<br />
infirma nostri corporis<br />
virtute firmans perpeti. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Kindle our sense from above,<br />
and make our hearts o'erflow with love;<br />
with patience firm and virtue high<br />
the weakness of our flesh supply. </td></tr>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Hostem repellas longius,<br />
pacemque dones protinus:<br />
ductore sic te praevio<br />
vitemus omne noxium. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Far from us drive the foe we dread,<br />
and grant us Thy peace instead;<br />
so shall we not, with Thee for guide,<br />
turn from the path of life aside. </td></tr>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Per te sciamus da Patrem,<br />
noscamus atque Filium;<br />
Teque utriusque Spiritum<br />
credamus omni tempore. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Oh, may Thy grace on us bestow<br />
the Father and the Son to know;<br />
and Thee, through endless times confessed,<br />
of both the eternal Spirit blest. </td></tr>
<tr><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Deo Patri sit gloria,<br />
et Filio, qui a mortuis<br />
surrexit, ac Paraclito,<br />
in saeculorum saecula.<br />
Amen. </td><td style="text-align: justify; width: 48%;">Now to the Father and the Son,<br />
Who rose from death, be glory given,<br />
with Thou, O Holy Comforter,<br />
henceforth by all in earth and heaven.<br />
Amen. </td></tr>
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<blockquote class="no"><h3>Come Holy Spirit</h3>Come Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of your faithful and kindle in them the fire of your love.<br />
<i>V.</i> Send forth your Spirit, and they shall be created.<br />
<i>R.</i> And You shall renew the face of the earth.<br />
<i>Let us pray.</i><br />
O, God, who by the light of the Holy Spirit, did instruct the hearts of the faithful, grant that by the same Holy Spirit we may be truly wise and ever enjoy His consolations. Through Christ Our Lord. Amen.</blockquote><br />
<div style="color: #666666;">( One of the most widely used hymns in the Church, Veni, Creator Spiritus, is attributed to Rabanus Maurus (776-856). It is used at Vespers, Pentecost, Dedication of a Church, Confirmation, and Holy Orders and whenever the Holy Spirit is solemnly invoked. A partial indulgence is granted to the faithful who recite it. A plenary indulgence is granted if it is recited on January 1st or on the feast of Pentecost.)</div>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-40753046329230837072011-12-18T00:15:00.000+00:002011-12-18T00:15:10.184+00:00O! O! O!... Christmas is almost here!The <a href="http://maryellenb.typepad.com/o_night_divine/2010/12/praying-the-o-antiphons.html">great O Antiphons</a> have started today. And this year we have another little head at the table.<br />
Honor joined the boys to colour in the O Sapientia ( from <a href="http://maryellenb.typepad.com/o_night_divine/2009/12/o-sapientia-o-wisdom.html">here</a>.)<br />
I have been collecting jewel coloured gel and glitter pens and putting them away for this special week.<br />
Tonight I got them all out and we sat at the table and listened to <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Classical-Kids-Christmas-Susan-Hammond/dp/B00005NHOX">A Classical Kids Christmas</a> while we illuminated our pages.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9ogUoQdpb-8ea4mdIJ3ztZeIys7DCqlsVq0U4p3m7JwqIrvI_FPDcbKlmxcVY0FJxMJXY-Fdv5vuGj6V1gK0_Rk8k_NsKJW4Xwivd4wMewgsuA4dWdj7r7s_97EK3XUUJmyxG28MbMsvZ/s1600/o+antiphons+2011.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="225" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9ogUoQdpb-8ea4mdIJ3ztZeIys7DCqlsVq0U4p3m7JwqIrvI_FPDcbKlmxcVY0FJxMJXY-Fdv5vuGj6V1gK0_Rk8k_NsKJW4Xwivd4wMewgsuA4dWdj7r7s_97EK3XUUJmyxG28MbMsvZ/s400/o+antiphons+2011.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>The book in the foreground is <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Christmas-Mystery-Jostein-Gaarder/dp/1842550500/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1324166696&sr=1-5">The Christmas Mystery by Jostein Gaarder</a>, given to us by a friend. It is written to be read, a chapter a day throughout advent and we are really enjoying it and looking forward to the next chapter each evening. It's a nice read for a wide range of ages and because the chapters are reasonably short they are quite manageable. I recommend it to anyone looking for another advent family readaloud.Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-50711478190229739812011-12-17T22:57:00.000+00:002011-12-17T22:57:35.525+00:00Christopher Hitchens RIP.<h6 class="uiStreamMessage" data-ft="{"type":1}"><span style="font-size: large;"><span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">Profoundly sad to hear of the death of Christopher Hitchens. Without a doubt one of the most likeable and interesting of the 'attack atheists'. <br />
I wish Richard Dawkins no ill whatsoever, but he bores the knickers off me. And his sneery <i>voice</i>, which ranges from Bond villain to affronted old maid, doesn't have nearly the euphonious listenability of The Hitch. He'll probably live to be a hundred.</span></span></h6><h6 class="uiStreamMessage" data-ft="{"type":1}"><span style="font-size: large;"><span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}"> </span></span></h6>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-58184179868114965002011-12-10T15:06:00.000+00:002011-12-10T15:06:56.657+00:00Euthanasia is not mercy.<a href="http://mybattlementsofrubies.blogspot.com/2011/11/euthanasia.html">A couple of posts back</a> I put up a comedy skit entitled "Euthanasia".<br />
The writers may not have intended to, but their skit draws attention to the dark underbelly of the most inappropriately self styled "death with dignity" movement. That is, the pressure that sick people will feel to end their lives rather than be "a burden" on their loved ones, or the over stretched health service.<br />
The sentiments of the "ethics expert" Baroness Warnock: <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/2983652/Baroness-Warnock-Dementia-sufferers-may-have-a-duty-to-die.html">'<i>Dementia sufferers may have a duty to die</i>'</a> no longer shock us. Many agree with her.<br />
Her opinion that “<i>If you’re demented, you’re wasting people’s lives – your family’s lives – and you’re wasting the resources of the National Health Service</i>.” is probably rather widely shared..<br />
Certainly, in a society whose moral and ethical thinking was more "joined up", her words would have created quite the stir. As it was the response was fairly muted.<br />
I think many people felt she had a point, albeit an ugly one. After all, if unborn babies in the third trimester are killed on account of Downs Syndrome, or even a simple club foot or cleft palate, why on earth shouldn't we do the same to Grandma when she starts to demand more than she is giving.<br />
Besides, have you any idea how <i>expensive</i> Nursing Home care is these days? That could eat through the inheritance before you can ask who the Prime Minister is.<br />
And in these economically straitened times, <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1370091/Humiliation-belief-Widow-77-forced-undergo-incontinence-test-NHS-prescription.html">you may even find yourself shelling out for incontinence pads too</a>.<br />
It's not hard to see how grandma might be persuaded to 'do the decent thing' and relieve her carers of the burden that she has, or will, become.<br />
Certainly there isn't much 'dignity' in being cared for by people who think that the best help they could offer you is a glass of orangensaft laced with a lethal dose of phenobarb.<br />
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Barbara Ellen of The Observer makes some very astute observations on this issue following the BBC documentary "Choosing To Die':.<br />
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<blockquote class="tr_bq"> <i>The BBC has been accused of acting "like a cheerleader for legalising assisted suicide", which it denies. Pratchett says: "Everybody possessed of a debilitating and incurable illness should be allowed to pick the hour of their death." Clearly, with him, the dignity of choice is paramount. However, while one has enormous sympathy for Pratchett suffering such a vile disease, the fact remains that he is a rich, powerful man and it is highly unlikely that his wishes would be ignored. With respect, euthanasia laws are not in place to protect people such as him. What of those who may have their "choice" taken away, even if they don't want to die?</i><br />
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<i>There are bigger issues at stake, not least the arrogance of the pro-euthanasia able bodied towards the profoundly ill – the unseemly rush to pronounce the lives of others "not worth living". A recent study discovered that some sufferers of locked-in syndrome – as many as three out of four of the main sample – were happy and did not want to die. Such studies are flawed (some sufferers are unable to articulate either way), but it should still give us pause for thought before blasting off about "lives not worth living".</i><br />
<i>Likewise the knee-jerk: "They wouldn't have wanted to end up like this." Of course not – who would? – but that might not be the end of the story. How individuals feel when they are fit may change considerably when their health fails. Like those with locked-in syndrome, they may adjust to a life that is very different, often difficult, but just as precious. Who are we to judge?</i><br />
<i>Bizarrely, the one thing the pro- and anti-euthanasia lobbies have in common is an obsession with God. Sometimes, it's almost as if the antis are tricked into talking about the "sanctity of life" and "God's will", to make the pros look more modern and credible.</i><br />
<i>Personally, if I ever get something nasty, I'd rather be with a God-botherer than somebody who decides I'm looking peaky, books a Swiss flight and whisks me off to the ghouls at Dignitas. Or maybe I wouldn't – maybe I'd be begging for death. The hope is that I'll choose.</i></blockquote><br />
It's a short piece, and it's worth reading it all<a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/apr/17/barbara-ellen-assisted-death"> here</a>.<br />
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There is a reason why disability rights groups around the world are not supporting euthanasia.<br />
It is noteworthy also, that support for "mercy killing" is typically strongest among the young and the fit, and weakest amongst the old and the weak.<br />
<a href="http://www.independentliving.org/docs5/Wolbringeuthanasia.html">This essay</a> by by Dr. Gregor Wolbring ( Advisor on bioethic issues to the council of Canadians with disabilities) is worth reading for an insight into why disability rights movements do not support euthanasia.<br />
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The recent news of the death of Geraldine McClelland at Dignitas clinic in Zurich has, as she hoped, stirred the debate again. <a href="http://news.sky.com/home/uk-news/article/16125887">There is a poll running on Sky</a> which shows an overwhelming number of people voting in favour of legalising such assisted suicides as they offer at Dignitas. Currently the voting is running at 86% in favour to 14% against.<br />
Interestingly in a videotaped interview Ms McClelland mentions that she would envisage legalised assisted suicide as requiring the same kind of medical 'safeguards' as abortion. That is, that two doctors should both sign to confirm that no pressure has been brought to bear on the patient. Because, she says, that has worked with abortion. "vulnerable young women aren't forced to have abortions, <i>it never happened. And it won't happen with some vulnerable old people</i>...or if it does, then...you've got everybody concentrating on that and have let the people like me, who know what they want, do it easily".<br />
This is a poor and incoherent form of reasoning. But I can't fault the poor lady for that. Suicidally depressed people are not typically thinking about how their decisions will impact other people.<br />
As for the idea that pressure has never been brought to bear on women seeking abortions, well anyone with even a passing aquaintance with the issue knows that this is pure fiction.<br />
And it is easy to see how the kind of emotional pressure that works to impel youmg women to terminate their pregnancies ( "I'll leave you", "don't think you'll get a penny from me" etc) would also work to impel the elderly and the sick to shuffle more sharply off their mortal coil than they otherwise would.<br />
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She also says that being unable to get into the seat of the taxi "isn't a life, <u><b>by anyones standards</b></u>".<br />
Of course, such a life is very much a life by the standards of plenty of sick and disabled people. But of course, many able bodied people do look at disability in this way. They see it as "not a life". Which is why I believe the euthanasia movement is profoundly dangerous for the weak and the ill, and preys on the natural fears most of us have of losing our faculties.<br />
What we need is a culture of love, care and practical support for the weak and the scared. But sadly we are so damn scared of their condition ourselves, that we have rendered ourselves incapable of being alongside people in their own fearful valley of the shadow of death. To do that demands somethung of us that we do not want to give. Care comes at a price that few are any longer willing to pay. We just want to make it all go away..<br />
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I'll leave the last word to a commenter on my last post who offers some personal insight:<br />
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<blockquote class="tr_bq"> <i>I can confirm we (family) feel the pressure at times from doctors or even "friends", "neighbours" to let our father die. First my father does not want to die despite problems, and second we fight for him getting better, not to die. Before my father falls ill, I was undecided about euthanasia, whether it should be allowed or not. But now I am completely against. At a time when my father had serious lung infection over 2 years ago, we heard from doctors his death was imminent, that there was no point in feeding him anymore... Back home "to die", my dad did not feel so bad and wanted to get a gastrotomy, we had to rush and find another hospital where he could get treatment, convince a neurologist by phone,.. in between GP saying we should be ready to let him go (means die) and neighbours telling us to be relaxed about dosage of morphin! Thank God we listened to our heart and intuition and supported our father to live. It is 2 and half years now since this happened and we are ready to celebrate Christmas with my father, with health problems, but ALIVE AND HAPPY! In times of difficulty there are many people who prefer to send you the cemetary rather than battling for you to live (all disguised with compassion). allowing euthanasia will put a lot of pressure on ill people to end their life! </i></blockquote>Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-64053058302948290452011-12-06T12:31:00.000+00:002011-12-06T12:31:18.918+00:00Chocolate coins for breakfast<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyr0fh67tuP_-i0KhaIj1KenRrkkV8qhpNPKWrKnkgqglW-OW8fZajaPdhCEERFe6wnjwlsqLIFX-WAfPlrM98cV7AZBFtlGWQ_MRR0QIHGPYgqgsy2xK42pM3K7HC6Q3pdo6mjpEJmPN2/s1600/shoes+st+Nick.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyr0fh67tuP_-i0KhaIj1KenRrkkV8qhpNPKWrKnkgqglW-OW8fZajaPdhCEERFe6wnjwlsqLIFX-WAfPlrM98cV7AZBFtlGWQ_MRR0QIHGPYgqgsy2xK42pM3K7HC6Q3pdo6mjpEJmPN2/s320/shoes+st+Nick.png" width="320" /> </a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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"You've always been such a..proud, dignified man"Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-65513174080356572602011-11-25T00:31:00.000+00:002011-11-25T00:31:21.531+00:00Breaking the silence This short film is a reading of a real letter that was written by a young mother to the baby she lost to abortion.<br />
For many women abortion is a shameful grief that they feel they must carry in silence. <br />
Some post abortive women are now committed to offering the kind of support that was not available to them. Slowly, the truth about abortion is being told.<br />
One day abortion will go the way of the slave trade, and our children's children will wonder at our generation's inhumanity.<br />
How is it possible that we can <i>know</i> about the barbarous inhumanity which abortion inflicts upon our most vulnerable human beings, then look away, and imagine ourselves to be humane and civilised?<br />
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(ht: <a href="http://www.facebook.com/pages/Abby-Johnson-Pro-life-advocate/114382035238545">Abby Johnson's FB page</a>)Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-37615558456128687402011-11-22T01:31:00.010+00:002011-11-23T01:53:55.622+00:00Mary is the Ark of the Covenant? Do you guys ever read your bibles? This evening someone left a comment on an <a href="http://mybattlementsofrubies.blogspot.com/2011/10/happy-feast-of-our-lady-of-rosary.html#comment-form">old post I put up for the feast of Our lady of the Rosary.</a><br />
I included a video and added the words too, because I find them beautiful.<br />
My anonymous commenter was <i>shocked</i> by them however.<br />
This is what Anon said:<br />
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<blockquote class="tr_bq"><b><span style="font-size: small;">I am stunned by such heresy. JESUS was the burning bush (I am) - God Himself was the cloud. Do you catholics now believe that Mary is part of the Trinity? That Mary is the savior of Israel? Do you guys ever read your Bibles?<br />
Mary is the Ark of the Covenant??<br />
Why dont you just do away with Jesus altogether - can anyone say pagan??</span> </b></blockquote><br />
You know, these challenges are just irresistible to me.<br />
Even though I was getting ready to shut down the 'puter and get to bed, I got a second wind and started tap tapping out what was meant to be a brief response.<br />
<i>Meant</i> to be. Famous last intentions.<br />
Brevity is not my strong point I'm afraid, even past midnight. But this is about as brief as I can manage for a matter which sets my pulse racing like no other ( well, apart from my exceptional progeny of course)<br />
After typing it out I thought maybe I'd put it in a post instead:<br />
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Hi Anon.<br />
Sorry to have stunned you.<br />
I hope you are recovering your equilibrium now.<br />
Actually the bible is a catholic book, but you are welcome to borrow it any time you like :-)<br />
And no Anon, Jesus was not the burning bush.<br />
The burning bush was ablaze with God, but the bush itself wasn't God.<br />
It burned with the presence of God, but it was not consumed by the flames.<br />
Mary bore the living God to the world and yet she also was not consumed.<br />
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<u>Pregnant with God. Like the bush in Horeb.</u> <br />
Can you see the parallel?<br />
Mary was the living shrine of the Word of God. The Ark of the <u><i>New</i></u> Covenant.<br />
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This is not a novel heresy, but a very ancient understanding of the scriptures and the role of Mary in salvation history.<br />
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No, Catholics do not believe that Mary is <br />
"part of the Holy Trinity" anon.<br />
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When David danced before the Ark, was he worshipping the Ark itself?<br />
What did the Ark bear?<br />
<b>The ark bore the word of God made <i>stone</i>.</b><br />
<b>Mary bore the word of God made <i>flesh</i>.</b><br />
She bore the living <u><i><b>Word</b></i></u>. Jesus Christ. God incarnate.<br />
Mary is the " Ark of the New Covenant".<br />
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You asked me if "us catholic guys" ever read our bible.<br />
Well now you've gone and bin and thrown down the gauntlet Anony!<br />
It's late so I can't be here all night, but you know I can't resist a challenge, so here's a little catholic scripture lesson to whet your appetite:<br />
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<u>Jer 31:31</u><br />
"The days are coming,” declares the LORD,<br />
“when I will make a new covenant<br />
with the people of Israel ...<br />
because they broke my covenant,<br />
though <b><i>I was a husband</i></b> to them"<br />
<u>Lk 1:35</u><br />
Marys spouse is the Holy Spirit.<br />
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<u>2 Sam. 6:7</u> The ark was so holy and undefiled that the Lord slew Uzzah when he touched it.<br />
Just as the Virgin of Nazareth, Mary, the New Ark, is holy and undefiled.<br />
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<u>2 Sam. 6:16 </u><br />
David leaps before the ark of God.<br />
<u>Luke 1:41</u><br />
John the baptist leaps in the presence of Jesus in Marys womb.<br />
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<u>2 Sam. 6:9</u><br />
David says: "How can the ark of the LORD ever come to me?"<br />
<u>Luke 1:43 </u><br />
Elizabeth says: But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me?<br />
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<u>2 Sam. 6:11</u><br />
The ark of the LORD remained in the house of Obed-Edom the Gittite for three months<br />
<u>1 Chron. 13:14</u><br />
The ark of God remained with the family of Obed-Edom in his house for three months<br />
<u>Luke 1:56</u><br />
Mary stayed with Elizabeth for about three months .<br />
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<u>1 Sam 4:11</u><br />
The ark of God is captured, brought to a foreign land, and later returns (<u>1 Sam 6:13</u>)<br />
Mary is also exiled to a foreign land ( the flight into Egypt) and later returns (<u>Mat 2:14</u>)<br />
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<blockquote class="tr_bq"><i><b>"can anyone say pagan?? "</b></i></blockquote><br />
I think most people.<br />
And it's pretty easy to spell too.<br />
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I'm just kidding anon. We're not pagan, we're just the original historical christians.<br />
Accept no imitations.<br />
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Here's that video again.<br />
Listen this time without prejudice and think about those old testament types, or foreshadowings of Mary, the New Eve, the Ark of the New Covenant.<br />
"<span style="font-size: small;"> <i>T</i></span><span style="font-size: medium;"><i><span style="font-size: small;">he cleft in the rock, which God covers with His hand while His glory passes by</span></i>"</span><span style="font-size: medium;"></span><br />
Maybe then you will even be able to appreciate the words a little.:<br />
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