tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post2078171326485289495..comments2023-10-26T11:33:09.550+01:00Comments on Battlements Of Rubies: Babies and sleepClare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-41738680314652329072010-05-29T14:53:37.785+01:002010-05-29T14:53:37.785+01:00LOL Paola, I'm sure you meant to type Colombia...LOL Paola, I'm sure you meant to type Colombia!<br />Thanks for the correction though.<br />I Googled and found this site which explains more:<br />http://www.kangaroomothercare.com/whatis02.htm<br /><br />This quote is on the photo's page:<br /><i>"The instinct of a mother to hold and care for her baby is primordial and primitive, and an overwhelmingly powerful feeling."<br /> - Jane Davis, Bogota, Dec 1998 who kangarooed her prem baby.</i><br /><br />I think that is so true. Instinct is powerful and important for survival. Somehow we have learned that science trumps instinct. Because there is no scientific model for 'instinct' it has become relegated in modern minds to the equivalent of old wives tales.<br />It makes me sad when mothers subordinate their natural mothering response to a prevailing idea, book or trend.<br />One particularly egregious example of this is the Ezzo's "Babywise" programme. <br />See here:<br />http://www.ezzo.info/index.htmClare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-43944080189272560282010-05-29T12:52:58.922+01:002010-05-29T12:52:58.922+01:00I should have checked it out before my comment, it...I should have checked it out before my comment, it's actually Bogota, Cambodia where kangaroo care originated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-48862868663174438742010-05-28T11:18:30.386+01:002010-05-28T11:18:30.386+01:00Interesting comments, thank you!
Sue, that's r...Interesting comments, thank you!<br />Sue, that's really interesting to know that co sleeping is the norm in Japan. I wonder (cynically) how long it will take, for Japanese mothers to start adopting the 'American way'. For good and ill it's a powerful culture. <br /><br />Mum6kids, that's very interesting. Your story makes alot of sense to me. Midwives are a funny bunch. The ones I trained with are really incredible, very very respectful of mothers and hugely supportive of their mothering instinct. Hearing about bossy midwives makes me wince though, I've certainly worked with a few of those too. They make maddening colleagues!<br /><br />Paola! Thanks for dropping by! I didn't know that kangaroo care started in Russia. And out of a lack of resources? Wow, what a rebuke to our devotion to technology.Clare@ BattlementsOfRubieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13672603563016876943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-26608011639909622062010-05-28T09:47:57.211+01:002010-05-28T09:47:57.211+01:00Lovely post. I always love to read about the benef...Lovely post. I always love to read about the benefits of co-sleeping. I'm absolutely fascinated and impressed with mum6kids' comment! wow! It reminds me of the whole kangaroo-care in Russia(?) where they could not afford high tech equipment for preterm babies, and yet had great success with strapping the teeny babbas to their mothers' chests. Aaahhhh<br />PaolaxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-48729966468663459722010-05-26T08:51:23.302+01:002010-05-26T08:51:23.302+01:00I remember when I tried to keep my first baby in b...I remember when I tried to keep my first baby in bed with me at the hospt that I got really mixed responses from the staff. One nursing assistant told me off quite crossly and demanded I replace him in the fish tank thing between feeds. One of the midwives said it was bad and another said it was good. <br />That was just over 21 yrs ago. <br />There was still a pretty mixed response by the time I had No 4 just over 7 years ago but things had settled to a kind of mums can if they must by the time Avila was born and then I remember when Heleyna was born (3 yrs ago) there were posters up around the ward encouraging co-sleeping. <br />Co sleeping with Avila probably saved her life. She was a very sick child and didn't breathe through the night until she was 2. I would wake up and get her breathing again sometimes as often as 3 or 4 times in a night. We didn't have an alarm-and never needed one. She was with me and I knew each time she stopped breathing.<br />One of the Paediatricians was shocked I had managed like that- but although I looked into buying a machine I thought it was more dodgy to rely on something I wasn't sure would work and she would have had to sleep separately from me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8011430871385466953.post-36724235614126801932010-05-26T06:07:27.316+01:002010-05-26T06:07:27.316+01:00The part about storing everything but the baby in ...The part about storing everything but the baby in the crib made me smile - good memories! I don't think I ever had pots and pans in ours, but diapers, bum cream, extra baby clothes, and the like found a very good home there. I basically used it as a very roomy changing table!<br /><br />When I was pregnant with my first I was determined to do things the "American way". I soon caved and gave over to the "Japanese way", otherwise known as co-sleeping (not that I had ever heard of that term back then). Though I think the arguments on both sides get a bit over zealous sometimes, I've never regretted giving up on that custom!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09508033779758406137noreply@blogger.com